Friday, October 24, 2014

Uncle David



Three years ago today, on a crisp autumn day about a week before Halloween, I got a phone call I suspected would be coming, but did not want to hear.  My Uncle, David Alton Eno, had passed away.  

Not every family is lucky enough to have an Uncle David.  In fact, only one in every 691 babies in the world is born like him: he had Down Syndrome, and he was amazing. 

David was born during a time when mothers who gave birth to babies with Down Syndrome were encouraged to place their children in institutions.  The "burden" of raising such a child would be far too much for the mother to handle, they would say.  Not for Grandma.  She raised my father, my Uncle, and cared for a husband who was wheelchair bound.  I love looking at old pictures of him: laughing as he opens up a Christmas present, smiling ear to ear as he graduated high school, and standing with the rest of the family in their polyester bell bottoms and wing collar shirts.  







When I was growing up, my Grandma, Grandpa, and David lived in a cozy house that was only a five minute bike ride from ours.  I was over there many times, not just at holidays, but at least once every two weeks or so.  Speaking of holidays though, they were David's favorite.  If he had a vacation day he would happily exclaim "home tomorrow!"  (He worked through a local MRDD program)  He always knew whose birthday was coming up next and would announce it to everyone.


 


Traditions are very important to our family, and David was no exception.  On birthdays, he would put on his straw cowboy hat (seeing similar ones at thrift stores and yard sales still makes me lose composure for a moment) and hold the cake with its lit candles, walking into the room as we all sang Happy Birthday to the lucky celebrant.  At Christmas, he liked to play Santa, handing out the gifts one at a time to each person, although he usually needed some help to read the names on the wrapped packages.  He and my dad were true brothers, and would often start out the wrapping paper wars, throwing them across the room at each other.  After a while, David's shout of "mom!  He bothering me!!" would make us all chuckle.  Traditions.





Every Christmas season, Grandma would also ask David what he wanted for the holidays.  Since David was sometimes hard to understand when he spoke, he would draw her a picture to give to Santa.  Sometimes the picture on the paper would be as simple as an American flag t-shirt (the year was 9/11), and sometimes it was as elaborate as a new drum set.  Whatever was on that paper, Santa always delivered.  


David loved bowling, the classic TV show Batman, Wizard of Oz, and dancing.  Whenever he received a gift at Christmas that played music, he would immediately get a serious look of concentration on his face, clenching his small hands into tight fists, and start bobbing and rocking to the music.  Occasionally as we all laughed in good fun, he would grab my or my sisters' hands and we would get up to bob and sway with him, holding hands.  





I don't want you to think that my Uncle David was a saint.  He got angry every now and then like anyone would.   He was afraid of certain things like getting his hair cut, or walking up bleachers.  He was human.  But he added something to the lives of every single member of our family that was completely invaluable and entirely irreplaceable.  David was forever reminding everyone around him about how to embrace the moment, how to celebrate fully, and how to just be joyous. 

In his final years, David developed Alzheimer's, a not-uncommon problem among people with Down Syndrome who survive to late middle age.  He grew thinner, increasingly confused, and had physical complications also associated with the disease.  On the last occasion my husband and I got to see David (my husband, Tom, was lucky enough to know him before the disease had progressed, and knew what a remarkable human being he was), we had a hard time getting any sort of reaction from him as he laid in his bed.  Right before we left, we both gave him a massive hug, and Tom squeezed his hand and told him that Spider-man was better than Batman (a joke they had between them).  I saw David's face crinkle into a small grin, and he gripped Tom's hand tightly for a moment.







My favorite memory, and one I shared at his funeral, was when Grandma and David came up to cheer me on, along with mom, dad, and Tom, when I ran my first (and only!) 5k race.  When the race was over, and we all stood around my parents' van saying hellos and goodbyes, some peppy song came on the loudspeakers, and David grabbed both of my hands for a dance.


 


My dad had a camera to snap a few pictures of the event, and somehow the camera was set on video instead of photo.  The mistake was quickly corrected, but what remained was a five-second sliver of video, one I'll always cherish, of the last time I danced with David.

There will never be another David Alton Eno.  His passing has been the hardest in my blessed lifetime thus far.  I still lose my breath and have to stop to clear the tears from my eyes if I see a grown man with Down Syndrome unexpectedly in my daily life.  The pangs of missing his gentle presence are further between, but still definitely present as time goes on.  Three years and one month ago, my sister gave birth to a sweet, wonderful baby girl, born with Down Syndrome.  Since my sister and her family live many hours away, I haven't had the chance to see her or the rest of the family as often as I would like to.  But when I see her in person, and in photos, I am struck not only by how different she is from David, how much she is her own person, but every now and then in little things she does, little words, little gestures, I see him for a moment again, and I feel nothing but blessed.

To have known someone, and loved someone so very much, with Down Syndrome, is a very very special and unique thing.  But David was also so very much more than his condition...he was a singular force of life, and one that will never be forgotten.

I love you, Uncle David.  Thank you for dancing through my life. 

Sunday, October 5, 2014

Ready for Halloween


 This was a very fallish weekend.  In fact it was so chilly it was almost wintery!  Tom and I decorated for Halloween yesterday, and went to a local pumpkin farm today.


 The dining room is more about whimsy and enchantment than spooky, so we just did fall decorations in here.


The entry is a mix of fall, with our assorted pumpkins, and Halloween, with a mask on Hestia and bats on the walls.



 The bust on the table has a hat and mask, and the homemade spooky mirror I made a few years ago is back up.


We got a new openwork bat bowl, and inside of it we put dried moss, glow in the dark creepy snakes, and a single candle.


The mantel is all ready for Halloween.


The candles on one side say eek, and the other side says boo.  (the antlers were humanely acquired)


A bunting of vintage style black cats and pumpkins hangs across the bay window.


And an incredible piece of cross stitch made by a friend is hung in the kitchen.


Friday, October 3, 2014

A Wedding Anniversary Fit for a Couple of Kids!

Today was Tom and my sixth wedding anniversary, and we spent it the best way possible...proudly acting like six year olds!

First we went out to a breakfast of sugary pancakes and bacon and eggs.  Then we came home to exchange gifts.  We really like to try to play off of the traditional anniversary gifts every year.  Six years is traditionally "iron and candy." 

Tom's gifts to me were...

Frozen shimmering jelly beans!

A plush Olaf who loves big hugs!

And most brilliantly and romantically (imho), to fulfill the "iron" part of the traditional gifts, he got me a wrought iron facade piece...authentically from the actual Haunted Mansion at Walt Disney World!  He knows how much I love WDW and the Haunted Mansion in particular, so it was an extremely romantic and creative take on the theme.


When I heard that the theme this year was candy, I immediately glommed on the idea of doing a Wreck it Ralph theme.  Wreck it Ralph, FYI, is one of Tom's two favorite Disney movies.  He loooves it.  And despite what a hit movie it was, they really didn't release very much merchandise for it at all.  Especially adult merchandise, specifically men's shirts.  Which is ridiculous, because the movie basically was made for nostalgic 30-40 year olds who grew up with the arcade games the movie references. 

Anyway, I'm ranting, but the point is...I've been looking for a cool Wreck it Ralph shirt for him for ages, and there was nothing out there.  Then finally I found this shirt on Ebay, which was totally his style, and grabbed it up.


Continuing in the Wreck it Ralph theme, I got him a keychain with a sculpt of the cookie medal Vanellope makes for Ralph.



My final present was interactive.  In the movie, Ralph and Vanellope make a race kart for her to race in her game, Sugar Rush.  When we got home from breakfast, I ran into the living room and set up this display, with the theme song to Sugar Rush playing on Spotify (from the soundtrack). 


Yep, I went out and got a ton of candy and frosting and graham crackers and marshmallows etc etc etc, and we made our own race karts, like in the movie!!!

Here's my finished kart:


And Tom's:

We watched the movie as we made our crazy creations.  

Next we drove to Columbus to our favorite theater to see Boxtrolls:




We tried to get a picture together, but the employee who took it for us totally cut off the picture and it was all blurry :(

Boxtrolls was extremely charming and fun of course...Laika has another masterpiece under their belts. 

We then went to the Disney Store and bought a Minnie Mouse Halloween plush, and an Elsa doll.  Have I mentioned yet that we're just a couple of proud kids?  :)

Dinner was at Olive Garden, and then we finished our day like a couple of grown-ups, with a photography and fine art exhibition by dear friends of mine.



Some familiar faces were on the walls! :D







And I saw some dear friends I hadn't seen in far too long.



All in all, a VERY excellent day. 

Friday, August 29, 2014

Neddy The Green Man

My Toby Froud Green Man arrived a few days ago, and I was instantly smitten!  He's marked 34/50, so if you were thinking of getting one, I'd do it soon!


His spot in the house is right at the bottom of the stairs, above the silhouette of Ned and Topsy, also known as William Morris and Edward Burne-Jones.  


You can see Toby's other Green Man above the front door in the above picture.


In fact, the Green Man rather reminds me of Ned, so I've decided that's his name!


Friday, August 1, 2014

Birds and Flowers

This morning I woke up to a sight that made me chuckle.  The trellis in the middle of the flower bed by the garage has two or three little metal birds in the design of it.  Well...this morning a flock of tiny birds decided it made a good perch, so there were many many more *real* birds on the same trellis. 

There were even more, but by the time I got my camera....


Our back yard has become quite the bird habitat, and I'm loving it.  We've had three bird families so far nest in our tree this year.

I got some good sweaty hard work done on pruning the raspberry bushes, and the remaining primocanes are all woven along the fenceline, which makes the garden look infinitely more neat.  And then I picked a bouquet of flowers from the garden for my Grandma, who has been recovering from a surgery.


Fern, Black Eyed Susan, Coneflower, Calendula, Bachelors Buttons, and Sedum

Monday, July 7, 2014

Catty-Corner Cottage Garden Tour 2014

I had such a good time doing the video tour of the completed dining room, I thought it might be fun both for sharing and for keeping a record of things...to do a video tour of my yard and garden this summer! 



A few screenshots from the video: